4/30: What I Wear to Bed

For Future Daughter, Less-then-10-lines

Dear Maera,

I can’t find  any picture for this post. First, because I wear house dress to sleep. Second, because no one takes picture of her house dress.

Here’s the only thing I can tell about house dress: Home is a place where you can wear your favorite house dress and people around still love you in it.

Love, P.

3/30: Kind of Person That Attracts Me

For Future Daughter


Well, it’s so hard to write constantly every day, Maera. This one should’ve been written on September 7th.

Okay, 3/30, ‘Kind of Person That Attracts Me’. “Attraction” is a pretty attractive subject to write but above all, let me remind you a thing: Opposites DO attract, but the like-minded lasts. At least this is what is said in here.

Do opposites really attract? A new study finds that when it comes to personality, people seek partners with their same qualities — but claim to want someone who is different.

It’s true, because I ended up with someone with (more or less) similar personalities and mutual preference. In fact, I never got attracted to person who is completely facing against me.

Well. I lied. I once did. I got attracted to an outdoor dash able to run really fast dash hating mall-type of guy. We came from different religions and of course, it simply didn’t last. Oh yes, and I fell in to the guy whose hobbies and interests were totally different from mine. We dated for a year, and it didn’t last either. Other than those, as far as I can remember, I’ve been always attracted to: guys with glasses, those who read and write and take photographs and dress simply and do not go clubbing and partying and do not get drunk, with open-mind and high-compatibility of jokes. You can call it a type of male-version-of-me and it’s not a rare type anyway. Some of these guys turned friends and best friends, one (and the only one) became my fiancé, and the rest were forgotten right away or a bit later.

So, Mae, another thing you should keep in mind; ‘attracting and being attracted’ is a natural matter. Everyone is born incomplete and sometimes we see the good thing we don’t have in the others. Be nice for ‘attracting’ and be wise about ‘getting attracted’.

Love, P.


1. I’m also attracted to Iker Casillas-type. Charming and good looking and humble and a world-wide champion. Just like other millions girls and women out there. Haha.

2. The guy in the photo is Jason Chen, a Taiwanese friend, and I wasn’t particularly attracted to him but isn’t it just nice to put a guy with glasses who reads and writes and good-looking right here?

2/30: How I Have Changed in the Past 2 Years

For Future Daughter


2 of 30.

Let me tell you Maera about how I have changed in the past 2 years.

So I got a job on July 2011, when I was 22. It was a milestone in my life as I became a real grown-up. I turned financially independent and moved out of your grandparents’ house. I moved to Balikpapan, a pretty neat and nice city by the sea.

In the past 2 years I’ve worked day and night for living. I’ve learned about real life that had never been taught at school. I’ve made new friends and some of them became a part of my support system. I’ve learned a bit about the ups-and-downs at work. I’ve learned that life isn’t only doing what we love but also loving what we do. I’ve learned that ‘doing the best’ comes from myself and ends up for my own self. I’ve learned to see both of the best and the worst side of people; respect them and respect myself at the same time.

In the past 2 years I’ve changed my mind a lot about what matters and what does not. I’ve learned to see people beyond the kind of music they listen or how many books they read per year. I’ve stopped wanting new clothes every month and new bag every 6 months, although I can afford them. I’ve stopped overrating trends and cool-looking people. I’ve stopped underrating people-who-never-travel-the-world-because-they-start-planning-a-house-installment-very-soon.

In the past 2 years, I’ve had some of my greatest dreams come true. I’ve been called as ‘geologist’ (even though I know it is still a long way to be one). I’ve stepped my feet on the museum I’d been wanted to visit since I was in junior high school. I’ve traveled to Andalusia. The last I would mention (and probably the best one): I’ve found the one that I want to spend my life with.

So, Maera, later in you 20s, don’t be afraid of changes. Don’t be afraid of moving forward and never be afraid of the closed doors because there must be ones being opened.

Do your best and move out of this house.

Love, P.